Brutal Deceptions.
 
 
We make pretty good assumptions and judgments about people by their appearances and attitudes, but sometimes we’re just really off about it.

For example, when me and Billy had a conversation about this, he said that he knows a lot of nerds who look like nerds and they are indeed nerds who are smart, good at computers, and all that crap. But then there are people who really fool you into thinking that they are nerds by looking the part and playing the part, but then you talk to them about computers and games and you find out that they really don’t know anything about them, and you’re like “Pshh wtf you’re not a nerd”

Another example is black people who look like are good at basketball, but they really play like white guys. You think some people are awesome at basketball because they rock Air Jordans and Kobe jerseys, wear 5 different wrist bands and have cornrows, huge glutes and skinny calves that make them look athletic and intiminatiing.

At first when you first step onto the court, you play like a pussy because you treat him like hardcore, highy flying beast you pressupposed in your mind. But as soon they make a few moves on you, you realize that they totally suck. They just like to play the part and do what black people do, or that they just really like basketball and play it a lot but suck at it because they have no talent.

The funny thing is, the fake black guys also have certain presumptions about what kind of player you are and how good you are based on your phsyical apperance, and if you are one of the rare 160 pound Taiwanese boy who can deadlift 500 and jump over 40 inches, you would most definately surprise them of how awesome and fast you are, just like the way they surprise you of how slow and crappy they are while they let their guards down, and you keep your guards up. And when this happens, the table turns, and you start kicking ass. Deception can work both against and for you.

At MICA, there are a lot of people who try really hard to be weird and unique and dress weird, but when you see their artwork, they really suck and they shouldn’t even be at a fine art school.

The worse and the trickest ones are girls who look like sluts but aren’t. You think they are easy, and you try to get into their pants, but they turn out to be good Christian girls. I hate those.


Certain deceptions are more perminant than others. While it’s easy to reveal yourself on a basketball court, other forms of social interactions can be more deceptive and less revealing. When seeing or meeting somebody for the first time, our brains use their instinctive ability to make basic claims, assumptions, and prejudice about the other person. Before any words are exchanged between you and a particular stranger, you’d already have a pretty good idea of what kind of a person she is, what type of music or movies she prefers, whether or not she’s a virgin, if not, what she’s like in bed, what her interests are etc.

Upon approaching that person and speaking to her face to face, you are likely to talk to her and treat her as the person you presume and expect her to be in your mind. You might even alter your image and project yourself in a way in which you think that type of a person like her might like from your previous experiences of dealing with that particular type of people.

In order to establish a connection and make you like her (if that is indeed her intention), that person is likely to conform and project herself in ways that
“match up” to the type of person you presuppose her to be as a reaction to your action, even if the presumptions are wrong.

Her conformance would further justify your presupposition as you think to yourself, “Yap, she’s just like the way I thought she would be”, and then carry on the rest of the conversation based on the (sometimes false) justification resulted from her (sometimes fake) acquiescence with more confidence and assertion while HER brain is processesing and anaylizing you in a similar fashion as both of you attempt to establish further connections with each other.

This projections of prejudices, presumptions, actions and reactions bounce back and forth between the two parties until both of them end up wearing a mask the other person had put on each other. With more more social interactions and experiences, our masks become more prominant, become harder to remove, grow into multiple layers and sets that we put on depending on the people and the situations as other people’s perceptions and opinions of mold you into the person you are.

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