Frank, what drives you? What is the fuel behind your work ethic, your aspirations and goals. Is it an indescribable feeling that is inherent? Was it developed through rough conditions and experiences growing up? Personally, I often find myself demotivated and plagued by extreme laziness at times. I’m unorganized. I procrastinate and have prevalent tendencies to slack off and take short cuts. Can it be partially attributed to my rather smooth upbringing? Are there methods or systematic ways I can force and train myself mentally to become stronger? Any type of insight / advice is much appreciated. Thanks in advance.
Fear of aging and death, fear of sexual, emotional, and intellectual deprivation. Fear of getting fat. The push and pull forces from opposite directions like neurosis/psychosis, rejection/conformity, and etc. Why do I fear these things? The combination of genes and how they interact with environment. Nothing is the result of one and not the other. If you know you have the genetic tendency to think and act a certain way, make sure you choose the right kinds of environments in order to make sure that those genes get triggered (or concealed) in the ways and patterns that most suit your goals and needs. Find the things that you are naturally good at and then create and stir yourself into the most suitable space and time that can best nurture those talents. You can be pretty good at something if you try really hard at it with a lot of practice and determination, but if you have shitty genes for it, then you would never become great. If you have awesome natural talent, and aren’t working hard enough or aren’t situated in the right environments, then you can never be great, either. The best find what their natural talents are, and then hone them and pound them as hard as they can in order to expose them and “open” them up to as much environmental pressure as they can to stimulate growth.Also, there’s nothing wrong with taking short cuts. But make sure the cuts lead to the main road. Pick the right short cuts, and prepared to be as motivated as you can in finding other paths quickly and fiercely without loosing sight of the main road. The best way to stay motivated is to enjoy the process and not worry too much about the end result. Let the end goal be the by product of a process that you enjoy. It’s important to think about your goals in the long run and organize your process and route to that goal, but don’t get too caught up with it. It’s not just a bottom to top progress, but the reverse direction as well. For instance, when I had a goal of achieving a 40 inch vertical, I didn’t just wake up and say to myself “ok, it’s time to go to the gym and get that 40 inch”. Long term goals like that need to be accomplished in increments and chunks of little goals that glue to other chunks of smaller successes to create bigger chunks of bigger successes, and so on.